I am MARY FROM Lagos
Advice me, people.So... There is this guy who I met. He has two young children and separated from his wife last month. Their marriage has sucked for a while and he finally called it quits. We are friends...We hooked up... Now every weekend I am going over to his place to play board games with his kids... and we barely talk... he just sits there watching me play games with them.. or taking a second to relax.. or he cooks dinner... like its a routine or something.. then when I go over to hang out when "She" has the kids... all he does is either hit on me, or just seems very sad and bittered by the divorce process. I think it is just hitting him that he is like... coming out of a marriage and has two kids and the family he made is gone.
He ask me out over every day his children arent there. I think he doesnt want to be alone and I know he enjoys my company and sometimes talking to me about how crappy he feels about his life right now... Those moments are rare and I kinda like them because he is like... letting me in... But is this a "red flag" situation waiting to happen?!
He wants to be like.. together.. but not, you know? Like... just us, but not officially calling it that... Its complicated and confusing...
I am thinking he is not ready yet at all for a romantic thing...
Keeping in mind we have an age gap, ive never been married, never had kids and all that jazz...
So.. Do I run away as fast as I can or what do I do here?! I do care about him... He really means something to me.
But I need to make sure that if I am going to accept going down the path of potentially becoming a number 2 that I look out for number 1 (myself) first, ya know?YOU CAN GET YOUR ISSUES PUBLISHED AND GET ADVICE, Send email to nairaleak@gmail.com
